I will be celebrating my 40th birthday tomorrow. Absolutely feeling very fabulous!
Here’s a few list of things that I’ve learned and gathered throughout my life. Nothing fancy, just wanted to share it with you guys.
Remember that it’s OK to not be OK. Nobody is perfect. Seek help from someone you trust and never stop believing that something good will come your way. Never stop praying and make dua to Allah to fulfill your wishes. But, if you did not get what you wished for, then stay positive. There must be a reason for everything. Only Allah is the best planner. Allah Azza Wajal says “And it may be that you dislike a thing which is good for you and that you like a thing which is bad for you. Allah knows but you do not know”. (2:216, Al-Quran)
Solat 5 times a day is extremely important. Every inch of your body and soul craves that link to the Almighty.
I learned through my first marriage that you cannot expect people to change. You can only change yourself to become a better person. Do it for your sake. Not for anybody else. When you are happy, everybody around you will feel the positive energy that you’re sending. Your day will be much brighter and pleasant.
There’s a reason why you have two ears and only one mouth. Use it wisely.
Your mind is very powerful tool. You can do anything you want just as long as you believe in yourself. You can Qatam Al-Quran, you can drop a few kilos to get healthy, you can quit sugar, you can run that marathon, you can leave an abusive relationship, you can quit smoking and what not. You can do just about anything if you put your mind to it. The key word here is BELIEVE in yourself. No excuses. Allah will not Change the Condition of a People until They Change Themselves.
Not everybody will like you and that’s OK. You don’t need to please everybody.
There’s no such thing as soul mate, you need to work everyday to strengthen your relationship with your spouse. Communication is very important. You need to tell them what you feel. Never suffer in silence. Life is too short.
After the divorce, I thought my life would end, but it didn’t. I fell in love again.
During confinement period, please listen to your mom when she said “Not to drink that ice water”. You will thank her when you reach your forties.
Kiss your kids goodnight every night. Kiss your wife/husband goodnight every night. You might not wake up to tell them you love them the next morning.
Have time for yourself even if it’s only for a few hours every week. Take a walk alone. Learn to quiet your mind and enjoy the scenery.
Learn to forgive yourself and others too. You’ll sleep better.
Keep it simple.
You don’t need to wear makeup if you don’t feel like it. You are beautiful just the way you are.
Appreciate the things you have even though you don’t have that much.